I’m Ridin’ Solo

David (also known as Dad) is preparing for the Ironman 70.3 happening this weekend! As a result, I've been handling all the parenting duties. He's had to intensify his training to make sure he can go the distance. What does this mean for me? It means I've had to take care of the boys by myself all week and on the weekends. Honestly, it hasn't been easy!

I've been managing the boys by myself not just from Monday to Friday, but also for several hours on both Saturdays and Sundays. Balancing solo parenting with everyday household tasks has led to some feelings of resentment. It's mainly because he can leave the house for a few hours without needing to plan for the time we will be away.

For instance, if I want to leave the house with the boys, I need to time it correctly so that Emmett is fed, as he will scream the entire time if he isn't. I have to choose a shirt that allows me to breastfeed him easily. I also need to prepare snacks and drinks for Benjamin and plan dinner for when we return home. If I'm not taking them, I have to prepare bottles for Emmett and ensure I have all my pump parts and milk storage. Meanwhile, David can just leave the house without these considerations! This, naturally, isn't his fault. It's part of being a breastfeeding mom. I also want him to train and achieve this goal! The boys and I enjoy cheering him on! But it doesn't make it any easier.

It's crucial for you and your partner to discuss these matters. Failing to do so can result in growing resentment, leading to a breakdown in communication. He may be puzzled about what he did "wrong," while you find yourself unhappy and unknowingly resenting him and your responsibilities. Taking the time to address what is troubling both of you is essential before it escalates into a major issue.